Manipulation of all kinds 

"If you don't want to help yourself, if you don't want to admit you have a problem, we can't do anything for you"...

They want to make us believe that we have a problem.

Great mental manipulation using guilt or the uncounsciousness of the person.

They say we might only want to see "our" side of things, when they are the ones who do this enormously.

Great way to ignore what we want to say, and crush us with their own visions and beliefs, and leave no place for ours